If You Love Someone Who Has ADHD, Don't Do These 20 Things

June SilnyADHD/life coach, author of the viral article “20 Things to Remember if You Love a Person with ADD.”


You wonder if everybody’s life is as chaotic as yours. Something’s not right.

Your child doesn’t act like the other children in the class. Homework assignments guarantee a night of fights, slammed doors, and tears shed. The teachers call you in for conferences weekly. Your husband gets fired again claiming all his bosses are jerks. You work overtime so your car isn’t repossessed. Your sister cancels every time you plan to meet for dinner. Your teenager is hanging out in the local piercing parlor. And your daughter can’t find her car keys whenever she’s walking out the door. Your relationships are constant conflicts.

You’ve considered splitting up, but you can’t afford to live on your own. You’ve thought of quitting your job, packing your bags, and running away. You’re tired all the time. You’re trapped, choking, and you cannot breathe.

Loving someone who has ADHD can make your life crazy if you don’t get a grip on it. The doctors prescribe medication. The therapists tell you what to do, but your home is as wild as a college frat house.

A person with ADHD can be hard to live with. The thought patterns and behaviors of a person with ADHD never go away. They are manageable, but that too, is a full-time challenge.

Without proper care, ADHD can lead to substance abuse, overeating, unemployment, toxic relationships, divorce, constant conflict, academic failure, insomnia, stress, anxiety and panic attacks. A person with ADHD has an active thought process of options, possibilities, and scenarios the average person cannot even imagine.

Eventually, reality bites. The rent is due, the electric bill is unpaid, and your checking account is overdrawn again. You’re exhausted from staying awake worrying all night. You want to run away, but your problems are like misspelled tattoos that stay with you wherever you go. There is hope. It doesn’t have to be that way. As a person with ADHD has to work through his challenges, you as his lover, parent, sibling or friend also have to learn coping skills to improve the situation. Don’t do these 20 things if you want to have a happier life together.

1. Don’t live in denial – Admit the truth.

Call the problem by its name: Attention-Deficit/Hyperactive Disorder. Your life will become easier when you identify it, own it, talk about it, and stop running from it. Admitting that it exists is the first step to freedom. There is no reason to feel ashamed. Many of history’s greatest contributions have come from people with ADHD. Scientists, authors, artists, musicians, and entrepreneurs have become successful because they have a creative vision that average people do not possess.

2. Don’t criticize – Judge favorably.

Realize that your loved one with ADHD is trying his hardest, even though it’s not good enough for your standards. Lighten up, go easy, and give them time. They will accomplish what they have to do, but not on the schedule you have in mind. Allow them time and space to accomplish their tasks. Influence them with love, not with criticism.

3. Don’t accept excuses – Encourage and inspire them to achieve their goals.

ADHD isn’t an excuse for an irresponsible lifestyle. It just means that what comes easy to you, may be difficult for them. It doesn’t mean that they can’t do something, it means that it’s harder for them. Simple tasks that you take for granted; such as opening mail, trashing junk mail, and placing your bills in a “to be paid” folder, feel like a climb up Mt. Everest to a person with ADHD. It doesn’t make sense to someone who doesn’t have it. Try to be encouraging, in spite of your doubts and disappointments. Point out the times when they suceeded.

4. Don’t be a coach – Be a cheerleader.

Stand on the sidelines; grab your pom-poms and start cheering. Words of encouragement have more power than insults and put-downs. Coaches are in-your-face critics. Their job is to point out the negative. Cheerleaders stand on the side, rooting for success, believing in their teams ability to achieve. Let your loved one with ADHD know that you are on the same team.

5. Don’t make unrealistic demands – Stay with the possible.

When a person with ADHD gets stressed out, an obsessive thought pattern of “what-ifs” begins. Screaming and shouting, “Just do it already. Stop making such a fuss,” will not break through compulsive thinking. Accept the fact that they may not be able to do what you want, when you want it, or how you want them to do it. If it’s something important, be specific.

6. Don’t give instructional lectures – Be respectful.

Lectures are not helpful if a person feels like they are being spoken to like a child whose baseball broke the neighbor’s window. If you have something to say, be sure to choose the right words at the right time. The timing of your conversations determines if you will be heard or ignored. Schedule a time to talk. Rehearse your speech so that it comes out as love, not control.

7. Don’t be impulsive – Practice patience.

Someone with ADHD is impulsive. If you are the rational thinker in the relationship, your ADHD loved one is depending on you  to be wise and patient. Two impulsive people reacting emotionally and regurgitating information at each other, does not make for a happy ending.

8. Don’t be a martyr – Call for backup.

Have a support team to help you through the struggles. You don’t have to manage everything alone. Call a friend, a therapist, or a loving relative. Find someone who just listens. If you don’t want advice or suggestions, a comforting shoulder to cry on can strengthen you and change your outlook

9. Don’t forget your goal – Prepare for a positive outcome.

Sometimes words come out that you later regret saying. They can’t be taken back. Hurtful words leave deep wounds. Keep your goals in mind. What would you like to accomplish? Ask yourself, if I say this will it lead to a negative or a positive outcome? It’s up to you. You determine the outcome. Go slow. Think before you speak.

10. Don’t feel guilty – Know that you are doing your best.

Feeling that your loved one is hard to love, or that you don’t like their behavior is a sad feeling to experience. If you’re a parent and are upset about your child’s behavior, guilt runs through your veins. It’s not your fault. You’re doing the best you can. You’re in a tough situation and you aren’t always sure which is the best way to handle it. Be gentle with yourself.

11. Don’t try to control them – Control yourself.

Intimidating or threatening does not inspire change. Trying to control people is never effective. When you don’t know how to motivate your loved one, think about how you can change your approach. You can’t control other people; you can only control your words, thoughts, and reactions towards them.

12. Don’t lean in – Step back.

Intense emotions are negative emotions. Leaning in and pushing a person to perform isn’t the most effective way to reach the result you desire. When stress is high and you feel like screaming, back off. Stepping back gives you time to breathe, relax, and readjust your thoughts.

13. Don’t label them – Be compassionate.

Judgment is easy; compassion is hard work. Don’t box them in as a “forgetful, lazy, disorganized mess,” or “someone who will never succeed.” Labels create pre-determined expectations that last for years. People become what you see them as.

14. Don’t say “never” – Nothing stays the same.

When times are tough, it’s hard to remember that tough times don’t last forever. Things will get better. Believe it. “Never” is a word of hopelessness. Start saying, “not yet.” The only thing constant is change.

15. Don’t say “Just do it” – Understand that they can’t.

An ordinary thinker cannot understand how a person with ADD/ADHD can’t accomplish the simplest tasks such as paying bills, organizing papers, and putting their clothes away. These tasks may be easy for you, but remember, the person with ADHD also has a hard time understanding why they can’t pay a bill or manage their mail.

16. Don’t be afraid to help out – Offer a helping hand.

It’s important to teach your loved ones how to be responsibly and independently. But also remember, that there are times when it’s okay to offer assistance. Even Einstein had a helper. His wife cooked for him, cleaned up after him and did his laundry because his high-powered mind was too busy discovering the quantum workings of the universe to take time to put his dirty socks in the laundry bin.

17. Don’t have unrealistic expectations – List what you love about them.

Accept your loved ones as they are. Just like with any other relationship, you have to look for the good, and stay focused on it. Never lose sight of the awesome qualities of your ADD/ADHD loved one. If it’s your partner, remember that their fun-loving, impulsive personality is probably why you fell in love with them. Go back to the beginning. Love them again, as if you first met them. If it’s your child, remember the feeling of holding your newborn baby in your arms for the first time.

18. Don’t neglect other family members – Spend time alone with them.

ADD/ADHD can take over your home environment, subliminally controlling everything and everyone in it. Spend time with other family members. They need you, too. Go to the movies or go get some ice cream with them. Remind them that they still exist for you. Hug them and hold onto them.

19. Don’t get mad – Pause for peace

Make peace in your home and your life your priority. The other lessons will soon fall into place if your home is a loving environment. Anger is easy. Staying quiet takes strength. Put your relationships before your feelings. You don’t have to veerbalize every comment that comes to mind. Place your ego on the side until your anger subsides.

Don’t ever accept abusive behavior of any type. There are certain relationships that are unhealthy, toxic, and need to end. Seek professional help.

20. Don’t forget to love yourself – Do something that makes you happy

ADHD relationships can suck the joy out of life. You realize that you haven’t laughed in a month. You forgot how to smile, and you can’t remember the last time you had fun. Make time for yourself. Do something that makes you happy. Have fun again, and do it often.

Let this little story inspire you:

After she received an ADHD diagnosis for her 7-year old son, a woman went to to the psychiatrist. Frustrated and distraught that she couldn’t handle her own child, she cried, “What more can I do? I’m doing everything I can. I don’t know how to handle my own child.” He looked at her and quietly answered, “Love him more.”

That wasn’t the answer she had hoped for. Through her tears, she pleaded for answers, “Love him more? I’m giving this child everything I can. I’m empty inside. I’ve got nothing left. How can I love him more?” “Try harder. Dig deeper. You can do it,” he answered.

When you love someone who has ADHD, they are a part of you. They live in your head and in your heart. You were chosen for this task. Love them more.

I Have ADHD. Here’s What A Week In My Life Is Like.

What ADHD feels like

Caroline Maguire was first diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) when she was 12 years old. Now 41, Maguire is a professional clinical counselor and founder of New England Coaching Services, a Concord, Massachusetts-based practice that focuses on helping children and families manage ADHD. She’s also author of the forthcoming book Why Will No One Play With Me? A Parent’s Guide to Becoming Your Child’s Social Skills Coach.

You know, I feel like I’m an expert in ADHD and I have all these systems in place to help me manage the challenges. But then there was a week recently when I didn’t have my medication and I just felt like, well, I’ve accomplished nothing.

 Classic textbook ADHD is seeking stimulation because the brain doesn’t generate enough dopamine, and the brain needs dopamine to stay focused and engaged. And so you do things to get dopamine, whether those are high-risk behaviors or exercising a ton or flying from thing to thing to stay stimulated.

So I’m an adrenaline junky, which is common for people with ADHD. I struggle with over-commitment, and I tend to create almost my own nightmare with too many deadlines. I also wait until the last minute to get something done, because the fear that I won’t finish creates adrenaline and that allows me to focus.

ADHD medication helps. But you also develop these systems or methods that allow you to get things done. I developed a lot of them when I was younger.  I call them my whacky ways to learn. I get on a treadmill and I listen to 80s music like the Rocky theme, and I run to flood the brain with dopamine. That gets me pumped up, and then I can go write the article I need to write or whatever. It’s like I have to manufacture focus. There was a study at UPenn recently that showed ADHD people wait to be in the perfect mood to do something. And when you’re in that perfect mood, you can get a lot done. I try to manufacture that mood.


When I have a bad week, the biggest thing for me is having a hard time managing the bombardment of life. I have a hard time being even and calm about things. That week I didn’t have my medication, I couldn’t sleep well. I was getting up at quarter of five every day, just because I was anxious about getting things done. My attention was always split. I was always aware of other things in the background. I could feel emails or texts coming in, and I was trying to do something else. And I can’t shift from texts to going back to writing. I have to focus on one thing or I get overwhelmed and I just shut down. I just stop being productive, and my emotion regulation goes south. (If you struggle with anxiety, there are plenty of natural ways to relieve your nerves.)

That’s a huge part of ADHD people don’t talk about—the emotion regulation piece where emotions take over because you’re worried about getting things done. Just overloaded. It could also manifest as overeating. (This crazy-easy hack can help you avoid overeating.) I’d been on a great clip with exercise and eating, and wasn’t able to stay on course that week and remember that my intention was to be healthier. Just the week before I’d been able to pause and say to myself I want to be healthier, so don’t order takeout. But then I couldn’t do that.

I can’t be in someone else’s brain, so I can’t say what it’s like if you don’t have ADHD. But if you’ve ever had a head cold and you’re hazy, or out of it, that’s how some people describe ADHD. I’ll find myself vacuuming, writing something, and making soup at the same time. Just being pulled in so many directions. And then the soup will be burned, the vacuuming won’t get done, the article I was writing won’t get done. So the ability to remember my intention of what I wanted to do was lost. The unfinished projects element of ADHD is a big thing. I’ve learned to be a little maniacal about making lists and making sure I’m finishing things, because it makes me so anxious when things are left undone.


Anxiety is another aspect of ADHD. The underlying anxiety makes everything not enjoyable. It takes you out of the moment because you’re worrying about something you need to do or finish. It makes it really hard to sit through a meeting or stay focused, not because you’re bored, but your brain is saying I need to get this and this and this done. There’s this cognitive hyperactivity, and your brain is just sort of circling the same topic.

This all may sound like something everyone experiences. But it’s really the degree of the impairment that separates ADHD. We all procrastinate. But some people with ADHD haven’t paid taxes in years. When there’s not enough interest or enthusiasm, people with ADHD can’t manufacture enough intention to get going. But it works the other way, too. If you have high levels of interest, then the brain gets flooded with dopamine and you can get a lot done.

Whenever I’m either over-tired or not clear on how to proceed, that’s when I really struggle. I will worry and feel like I have to go and get certain things done, and so I’ll just keep working, not eating or taking breaks, until I get it done. Sort of the other end of the spectrum from those with ADHD who procrastinate. I get things done, but it’s hard for me to have balance. If I know I have something to get done, I’m very all or nothing.


So I’m a little different than the stereotypes in that way. But one stereotype that would definitely apply to me would be the hyperactivity and impulsivity, and difficulty engaging in leisure activities quietly. The idea of sitting on a beach for a vacation is torture to me. I have to be up doing things and having an agenda. To sit on a beach, I literally become jittery and annoyed and snarky and difficult.

The other thing is I have to keep everything in its place. If I don’t, I will lose stuff. I get sort of annoying or obsessive with my family about putting keys back in the right place, because my history is of losing things. So I say, “please don’t move that,” or “leave that alone,” because I know I could lose it. I’ll just have no memory of what I did with something—almost like blacking out. So that’s just another system I have now so I can keep track of everything. (These simple lifestyle tips can boost your memory.)


The important thing to understand is that ADHD is a more complex disorder than people give it credit for. There’s a phrase associated with autism that you’ve not seen autism until you’ve seen my autism. (Did you know that bad gut bacteria is linked to autism?) We need a phrase like that for ADHD, because you can’t say with a broad brush, here is what ADHD is. It can be many different things, and there are different levels of impairment. (For more information about ADHD and other attention disorders, visit the Attention Deficit Disorder Association,, and


When I was a child I was very hyperactive and very disorganized and sloppy. But eventually, I learned that I could get things done by doing it differently than other people. That’s a lesson I have to relearn all the time. ADHD medications helps, but the skill is not in the pill, we say. It’s really about learning the methods and systems that work for you and that allow you to be productive and to get things done in your own way. I’ve had more than 20 years to get my strategies in place, but I still have those times when I struggle.

Leo of the Year public speaking winner Alyssa Bryan wants to talk about ADHD

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Struggle to success: Alyssa Bryan, 16, was the only Tasmanian to receive the Leo Award of Honour. Picture: Brodie Weeding.

Struggle to success: Alyssa Bryan, 16, was the only Tasmanian to receive the Leo Award of Honour. Picture: Brodie Weeding.

There was not a dry eye in the audience when Alyssa Bryan finished her speech as part of the Leo Young Person of the Year Awards in Hobart last month.

Miss Bryan, 16, spoke about how she came through her struggles with ADHD and bullying with a smile on her face.

“I’ve gone through most of the scarring and I’m happier than ever before,” she said.

The year ten student from Burnie High School won the public speaking division at the national convention for the Leo of the Year Awards.

Miss Bryan presented her speech at club level, then state level and finally in front of a crowd of over 1000 in Hobart for the national competition.

“I just really wanted to get my message about ADHD out,” she said.

“We can be calm. We can be like anyone else. We’ve just got different wiring and people just need to realise that.”

Dale Crawford, head judge of multiple district Leo of the Year competition, said Miss Bryan’s speech was a stand out on the day.

“The ovation she received at the convention was double of that of any other speaker. She really hit a chord,” he said.

The judges were also impressed by the 300 hours of community service Miss Bryan had carried out in the last 12 months.

Miss Bryan has been a member of the Penguin Leos Club for four years and was the third generation in her family to be involved with the Lions club.

“From being someone who was always knocked down… and [who] didn’t have as much support from my peers, it meant a lot to get into Leos and Lions and it helped me grow into the woman I am today.”

ARENTS Young woman with ADHD has message to mom: "Thanks for 'drugging' me"

A few weeks ago, Jessica McCabe wrote a letter to her mom and posted it on Facebook. “What I want to say to my mom, who ‘drugged’ me:” she began, “Thank you.” The post has since been shared almost 3,000 times on Facebook.

McCabe was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD, when she was 12 years old. “I was a gifted kid and did well in elementary school, but by middle school, the organizational demands were too much for my brain, and I started to struggle,” she told TODAY Parents.

“Socially too, things were rough — I was often left out or bullied by my peers,” she said. “Life at home was really challenging. I couldn’t manage my emotions. I wasn’t hyperactive; more the shy, fidgety, daydreamer type, so I wasn’t disruptive in class. But homework was an issue and my grades were suffering.”

McCabe’s mom, Rebecca Lynn McCabe, took her to a primary care doctor and then to a psychiatrist for evaluations. A special education teacher for 30 years and herself born with a disability, she told TODAY Parents she was “comfortable with doctors and medications herself and familiar and accepting of differences in children.”

“At the time period Jessica was diagnosed, the only ‘help’ was medication, Ritalin at first,” said Rebecca, “So it was not a hard decision to medicate her, especially once she started taking it and I saw that her mood was improved, her school performance improved, her concentration improved.”

Rebecca took her daughter to a psychiatrist monthly and also sought non-medication help for her at nearby UCLA throughout her teenage years. “I felt relieved when Jessica was medicated and improving. I felt I had done my job as a parent,” said Rebecca. “As long as a medication was working, I never doubted it.”

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For Jessica, the change in her life after she began taking medication for ADHD was profound. “I remember my GPA going up a full point without me even trying. I didn’t feel like I was doing anything differently, just that the effort I was putting in suddenly… worked,” she said. “I could focus, I remembered things. I was more energetic and outgoing.”

After a friend gave Jessica a book that explained the science of ADHD and included pictures of brain scans, Jessica said, “I loved understanding why I was different. It took away the shame. I felt not weird, but special.”

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“Thank you for understanding that there was a difference between my sister occasionally forgetting her homework and me losing or forgetting something almost every day. Thank you for understanding that while all children can be fidgety or impulsive or get distracted, I struggled way more than the other kids my age,” Jessica wrote in her Facebook post.

Jessica, now 34, tried to go without medication for years in her early adulthood, but she eventually decided her life and her brain work better with it. However, she said, “Around age 30, I realized I wasn’t really getting anywhere in life and that my medication, while super effective for things like focus and motivation, might not be the whole solution. Pills don’t teach skills.”

After receiving therapy and coaching, she decided to start a YouTube channel as a way to create an online toolbox for herself and “other ADHD brains,” she said. Jessica now collaborates with a team that includes doctors, students, volunteer researchers, and others to develop and create content for others with ADHD and “the hearts who love them.”

Jessica said that throughout her journey, she has seen how others with ADHD have suffered and struggled. “Self medicating is a common theme, as is battling anxiety and/or depression,” she said. “Shame is huge. Many have internalized the stories they were told of just being lazy, stupid or not caring. Being misunderstood.

“I feel really lucky that my mom had me diagnosed when she did, that she got me treated right away, that she never made me feel wrong for being who I am,” she said.

“All I know is she fought for us, and there was a lot of resistance at times. But I’m so grateful she did. It may have taken me awhile to find my path, but if she hadn’t gotten me treatment when I was younger I can’t say for sure I ever would have.”

Jessica McCabe

Jessica McCabe is grateful to her mother, Rebecca, for treating her ADHD the way she did, despite the judgment of others.

Dr. Abigail Schlesinger, Medical Director at Children’s Telephonic Psychiatric Services at the Children’s Hospital of Pittsburgh and an expert in ADHD, told TODAY Parents that community bias against using medication as a component of ADHD treatment often “makes this decision harder than it has to be” for parents.

“Youth with ADHD are more likely to make impulsive choices. Adolescents and adults with ADHD do have a higher risk of substance use disorders,” Dr. Schlesinger said. “Taking medication does not increase that risk. There is evidence that suggests while adolescents are in treatment — including medication — that they are less likely to get into trouble with substance abuse or legal issues.”

Dr. Schlesinger said that for parents, information is critical when treating children with ADHD. “Education is powerful,” said Dr. Schlesinger. “The data for the effectiveness of stimulant medications for the core features of ADHD is clear and consistent. It can be very helpful to reach out to other parents who have had to make this decision, through parent networks such as parent-to-parent or CHADD [Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder]. Talk to professionals if you hear conflicting advice.”

Jessica’s mom, Rebecca, had an additional suggestion for parents now who are deciding how to treat their children with ADHD: “Do not listen to the advice of parents who have ‘normal’ children. Your child is not abnormal — just different.”

How medical marijuana can help those with ADD and ADHD focus

The chronic condition is treatable, though not curable


How medical marijuana can help those with ADD and ADHD focus

FILE – This Feb. 1, 2011 file photo shows medical marijuana clone plants at a medical marijuana dispensary in Oakland, Calif. (Credit: AP Photo/Jeff Chiu, File)

his article originally appeared on The Fresh Toast.

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Attention Deficit Disorder and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD) is a chronic condition that affects over three million people per year.

From hyperactivity to impulses and inattentiveness, ADD and ADHD are most common in children but can persist in adult years. The chronic conditions is not curable, although treatment is available. Unfortunately, for some people, current treatment hasn’t been effective.

So what’s the next best contender? According to research, cannabis.

A 2013 study published in the Journal of Substance Use & Misuse found that people were self-medicating, in order to deal with and manage hyperactivity and impulsive — two major components of ADD/ADHD.

 The study surveyed about 280 cannabis users and the main finding was that a higher proportion of users reported experiencing symptoms of ADD/ADHD when they were not self-medicating. This finding led researchers to push for more resources to study the link between the endocannabinoid symptom and cannabinoid.

Following the findings of the 2013 study, researchers in Germany sought to closely examine the relationship between cannabis and ADD in 30 patients. In the 2015 study, the researchers examined traditional treatment resistant patients from 2012 to 2014.

There were 28 male patients (as ADD/ADHD is more common in male) and 2 female patients, between the ages of 21-51 with the average age being around 30. In all 30 cases, patients reported improvements in a variety of ADD/ADHD symptoms including concentration and impulsivity. In other cases, patients saw an improvement in sleep. All patients used some form of cannabis flower and in 8 patients, they used dronabinol, a THC drug used to treat nausea and vomiting.

Although the case study was small, researchers confidently concluded cannabis is “an effective and well-tolerated” treatment option — especially for patients where traditional pharmaceuticals fall short.

In reality, it should be no surprise that cannabis is a strong ally for people with ADD and ADHD. A study from almost 10 years ago examined the relationship between those with ADD/ADHD and dopamine levels.

People with the chronic condition experience lower levels of dopamine, the neurotransmitter responsible for mood and motivation. However, THC is known to increase dopamine quantities as well as the transmission of dopamine. Do you see the connection?

The most common ADD/ADHD treatments like Ritalin and Adderal may help sufferers concentrate or improve cognitive functions, but they have been noted to cause unappetizing side effects like nausea or vomiting. You know what’s good for that?


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FDA approves first generic forms of Strattera for ADHD

The US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved the first generic versions of Strattera (atomoxetine) to treat attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in pediatric and adult patients.Apotex Inc, Teva Pharmaceuticals USA Inc, Aurobindo Pharma Limited, and Glenmark Pharmaceuticals Limited received approval to market atomoxetine in multiple strengths.

The generic forms of Strattera are the first to be approved by the FDA for the treatment of ADHD.

The generic forms of Strattera are the first to be approved by the FDA for the treatment of ADHD.

In clinical trials for atomoxetine in children and adolescents, the most common side-effects reported were upset stomach, decreased appetite, nausea or vomiting, dizziness, tiredness, and mood swings. In adults, side-effects included constipation, dry mouth, nausea, decreased appetite, dizziness, sexual side effects, and problems passing urine.

“Today’s approvals mark an important step forward in bringing consumers additional treatments that have met the FDA’s rigorous standards,” stated Kathleen Uhl, MD, director of the Office of Generic Drugs in the FDA’s Center for Drug Evaluation and Research. “Quickly bringing generics to market so patients have more options to treat their conditions is a top priority for the FDA.”

The FDA recommends that patients taking this medication be monitored appropriately and observed closely for clinical worsening and unusual changes in behavior, especially during the first few months of drug therapy or at times of dose changes. Other important warnings include the risk of severe liver damage and potential for serious cardiovascular events.


  1. FDA approves first generic Strattera for the treatment of ADHD [press release]. U.S. Food & Drug Administration. jun,2, 2017.



BY ; Jill Robbins

Are you a parent who has struggled with the decision to give your child medication for ADHD?

I am and it’s a hard decision to make. So much of the time, parenting feels like you’re just winging everything. You research. You listen. You ask for advice. You trust your gut, take a deep breath, and hope you’re making good decisions — that your child will be okay.

My daughter took medication for mild ADHD when she was in the fourth and fifth grade. I reached the decision to medicate after talking to doctors and educators, reading, and hoping I was making the right call. No matter how much information we arm ourselves with, when making these difficult decisions for our kids, we always wonder if we’re doing things right, while bracing ourselves for comments from those who tell us we’re doing it wrong.

If ADHD has touched your life in any way, you need to check out the online community How to ADHD. There’s a Facebook page and a YouTube channel that offer a dynamic toolbox containing help on navigating life with ADHD.

The Facebook message posted by actress, writer, and YouTube personality, Jessica McCabe captioned “To My Mom, Who Drugged Me” has been shared more thank 3K times and the video version on YouTube has been viewed nearly 60K times.

The message is spreading like wildfire for one reason: ADHD impacts people. Regular people. Maybe you.

If you’re an adult who has ADHD (or if you think you might), then you need to read this, or watch this (or both). If you are a parent who has chosen to give your child medication for ADHD, you really need to read this, or watch this (or both). From one parent who has been there to another, this perspective from the other side might help you. At the very least, the message and comments will assure you that you’re not in this alone.

When we first read the words “to my mom who drugged me,” we imagine all kinds of terrible things. We simmer down when we see it’s an ADHD page, but then brace ourselves to read criticism from an adult who was medicated for ADHD as a child, expecting a “How could you do this to me!” rant.

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Does ADHD Really Exist!? This Is Why French Kids Don’t Have ADHD

At what point did boredom become a mental disorder? Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) seems to have become an epidemic in the United States, with roughly 19% of Americans diagnosed.

Meanwhile, in France, the diagnosis rate is only .5%. So what explains such a wide disparity?

Well, first and foremost, one must recognize that ADHD is an extremely questionable “disorder.” A few decades ago, ADHD would have just been called “boredom.”

In fact, even Dr. Edward C. Hamlyn of the Royal College of General Practitioners stated, “ADHD is fraud intended to justify starting children on a life of drug addiction.”


Confessing before his death, Leon Eisenberg—one of the “founding fathers” of ADHD as a psychiatric disorder—said, “ADHD is a prime example of a fictitious disease.”

In France, there are numerous cultural differences compared to the U.S. Generally, the French discourage the consumption of chemical/processed foods much more than in America. This is especially true for children in school, who often eat meals that are prepared by chefs-in-training using ingredients from local produce and livestock.

With all the high fructose corn syrup, GMO foods, stimulants, allergens, etc. in our children’s diets, no wonder they cannot focus or stay calm. Plus they are children!

Children naturally tend to be active and energetic, which is why constraining them to an assigned seat in a prison-like classroom provokes misbehavior.

Do schoolchildren have a “deficit in attention”, or are they just bored out of their minds?

When you cannot pay attention to a boring film, do you assume it is because you have a mental disorder that inhibits your ability to focus?

Of course not!

You walk out of the theater and demand a refund!

Instead of questioning what we feed our kids or the schools we put them in, our default assumption is that there’s something inherently wrong with our children.

This mentality not only justifies poor dieting and schooling environments, but it also defends the mainstream pharmaceutical industry that profits from selling “treatments” for what are often overblown or overdiagnosed mental “disorders.”


Contrarily, in France, ADHD is preferably treated with socializing and talk therapy, rather than harmful chemicals that come with numerous side-effects and create addictions.

As Paul Fassa of describes it:

“Psychiatrists traded in their note pads used in talk therapy for prescription pads as their professional stature diminished a few decades ago…So then psychiatrists could have patients visit for 15 minutes then prescribe them pharmaceuticals.”

Even more disturbing is the fact that Ritalin is a stimulant that is chemically similar to cocaine in molecular structure. We “stimulate” kids with “stimulants” because school is not “stimulating” enough for them.

While the “war on drugs” targets non-violent pot smokers, it completely ignores the toxic, and unnecessary drugs pushed onto children by Big Pharma.

14 Struggles That All Girls With ADHD Have

1. This is basically your brain all the time. How is it possible to have so many ideas at once?

14 Struggles That All Girls With ADHD Have

1. This is basically your brain all the time. How is it possible to have so many ideas at once?


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2.  You’re incapable of doing one thing at a time. Why only write that paper when you can write that paper and text your bestie about her breakup and start researching your spring break trip and get started on eight other assignments?

3. You have a great idea and then forget it a second later because you got distracted by something. Do you ever reminisce about all those lost ideas? All the wonderful things they could’ve become…

4. Speaking of which, you forget everything you need to do unless you write it down. The dog didn’t eat my homework, my ADHD did.

5. And you can never remember where you put your keys, wallet, phone, sweater, scarf, umbrella, glasses, hat … Basically, you lose everything.

6. When you do write down everything you need to do, crossing off all the tasks you completed is insanely gratifying. Never mind having to rewrite your to-do list because it got out of control and now everything is illegible.


7. A simple task like putting your laundry away takes two hours because you get so freaking distracted. Let’s be real, most of the time, it just ends up on the floor.

8. You have a love-hate relationship  with ADHD spokesman Adam Levine. OK, maybe I just love him…

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9. The anger you feel when you finally start focusing and then the person behind you starts talking: Back to square one.

10. How tired your brain feels at the end of a long day. It literally turns off.


11. Sometimes you feel like the most impulsive person in the world. Once you decide you need to do something ASAP, no one can talk you out of it, even if that means texting that guy you just started seeing at midnight on a Thursday or sending that really important email without reading it over. You want to do everything, and you want to do it right now.

12. When someone tells you to sit still and pay attention to a long presentation. If only people understood that all your fidgeting or doodling actually helps you focus.


13. You’re always late because you get distracted. You tell yourself you’re going to leave the house in 10 minutes, but then you wash the dishes, touch up your hair, tweet a couple jokes, and oops, you’re a half hour late.

14. You get bored with things 10 times faster than all your friends. How do people sit through long events? Seriously, can someone explain this to me???!!

Kids with ADHD have some smaller brain regions than normal, study finds

LONDON – Children with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder have several brain regions that are slightly smaller than usual, more evidence that the disorder should be considered a neurological condition, a new study says.

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The study, the largest review of ADHD patients’ brain scans ever conducted, might also provide clues for developing new treatments.

“If you know what region of the brain is involved in ADHD, you could possibly target that part with medication,” said Martine Hoogman of Radboud University in the Netherlands, the study’s lead author.

ADHD causes inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity, although a given person may not show all those traits.

Hoogman and colleagues analyzed MRI scans for more than 3,200 people in nine countries aged 4 to 63, of whom 1,713 had ADHD. They found that the brains of children with the condition were slightly smaller in five regions, including those that control emotions, voluntary movement and understanding.

The scientists reviewed one scan per person and found no effect from ADHD medications.

Hoogman said the findings support previous theories that the brains of people with ADHD may develop more slowly but that those differences are mostly wiped out by the time children grow up.

“By the time they become adults, the differences in their brains are not significant anymore,” she said. The study was paid for by the National Institutes of Health and was published online Wednesday in the journal Lancet Psychiatry.

Other experts described the findings as interesting but said there wasn’t enough information to link the brain differences to behavioral problems seen in people with ADHD.

“The study confirms that there are structural differences in the brains of people with ADHD, but it doesn’t tell us what they mean,” said Graham Murray, a lecturer in psychiatry at Cambridge University, who was not part of the research.

“Having less brain in several regions sounds bad but it’s not as simple as that,” he said, pointing out that decreased brain matter can sometimes be beneficial – like in teenagers, when the outer cortex of their developing brains becomes thinner as their intellectual capacity grows.

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“The brain is very good at adapting,” Murray said. “Just because you have less brain volume doesn’t condemn the child to not being able to function well.”

Jonathan Posner, an associate professor of psychiatry at Columbia University Medical Center in New York, also said the research should help families with children diagnosed with ADHD.

“To have a solid understanding that ADHD really does originate from brain systems and that it causes alterations in the way the brain is structured and functions, is important information for reducing stigma,” said Posner, who co-authored an accompanying commentary. “It will hopefully create more empathy for children who have ADHD.”